“Most things I worry about never happen anyway.” ~Tom Petty
I recently read an anecdote about a wise farmer who had tended his farm for many years. One day his horse unexpectedly ran away into the mountains. Upon hearing the news, the farmer’s neighbors came to visit.
“How terrible,” they told him.
“We’ll see,” the wise farmer replied.
The next morning, to the farmer’s surprise, the horse returned, bringing with it three wild horses.
“How wonderful. You are very lucky,” the neighbors exclaimed.
“We’ll see,” replied the farmer.
The following day, the farmer’s son tried to ride one of the wild horses. The horse was untamed and the boy was thrown and fell hard, breaking his leg.
“How sad,” the neighbors said, offering sympathy for the farmer’s misfortune.
“We’ll see,” answered the farmer.
The next day, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.
“We’ll see,” the farmer said.
This little story shows us the wisdom of not jumping to conclusions. How often do we worry about something only to find out later that all of our worry and stress was for nothing? Our minds are naturally afraid of the unknown, so we tend to jump to conclusions so we can have some (albeit false) sense of security and certainty.
We never can know what the future will hold for us. Yet often we let fear convince us to believe in both present circumstances and future outcomes that are totally untrue. This is the basis of worry. Worry is the way our mind can satisfy itself with an answer—any answer, no matter how irrational it is.
“Worry is wishing for what you don’t want.“ -Rita Roninki
When we worry, we over-think. We make up scenarios in our mind and convince ourselves that these scenarios are true and then act upon those realities until they become true in our mind.
When we make assumptions, we make mistakes. When we give into the fear of what negative things *may* happen, we often ignore the positive possibilities, and often ignore the present reality as well.
Thoughts are magnets that attract our reality. Peaceful thoughts create a peaceful reality. Fearful thoughts create a fearful reality.
A thought repeated on a regular basis becomes a habit. When a thought becomes a habit, it forms a belief. When a thought forms a belief, it attracts external events that align with your internal state.
You are responsible for the seeds you plant, not the results. When you place your attention on the present moment, without attachment to the past or worry about the future, and plant seeds according to your highest intentions, the results will fall into place.
Our focus forms our future. Concentrate on thoughts you want to actualize. The next time you find yourself worrying, take a pause and tell yourself, “we’ll see…”